Body Language

body language

This article is a part of Communication Skills write-up published earlier.

Body Language or nonverbal communication plays an important role in communication. It is very correctly said that a person can lie with the verbals but not with the non-verbals. The person can act for a few moment but then unconsciously the true self will be depicted. Therefore, it is very necessary to understand body language which occupies 65% of speech.

What is body language and why a person needs to understand it?

To put it in simple terms I would define body language as the language of the body. The way our body communicates with the outside world. A person needs to understand body language to communicate properly in the same sense as the receiver will decode the message.

Let us put it this way that when a person is singing we want to hear just the voice but if the face of the singer is expressionless and there are no gestures. Though we are just concentrating on the voice but we are looking at the person in total and we try to read all the gestures and facial expressions the person is making. we can find out if the singer is just doing his job or singing from his heart just from his facial and body expressions. This is the power of body language. A person who is a good reader of body language can easily find out about the truth and innocence of the other person. Our body speaks the truth and it is difficult for us to teach our body to lie. It can be practiced by artists but for a very short period of time after which the truth is visible.

Body language comprises of gesture, posture, facial expression and eye contact.

Gestures

Hands folded in front says that you are nervous, closed or reserved and do not want to open up.

Crossed legs again show closed gestures.

A person sitting with the ankle of one leg resting on the knee of another leg and hands folded at the back shows of an egoistic person trying to show authority. The same gestures with the shaking of the resting leg show that the person is in a hurry and showing superiority.

A person standing with the hands on hips and elbows turning outwards is showing superiority.

A person with raised brows shows that the person wants to listen more or does not agrees with what you have said.

People who are interested will show a tilted head with the head resting on the index finger or just a tilted head with good eye contact. This shows that the person is really interested in listening to the speaker.

A backwards posture with changing facial expression shows a lack of interest.

Playing with fingers, earrings or pen shows a lack of interest.

Too much fidgeting shows nervousness.

Avoiding eye contact shows disinterest and concealing of truth.

Sitting in a slouched position shows nervousness.

Restless behaviour and clenched fist near the chest shows impatient behaviour.